FORGIVE-RELEASE-EXPAND: How to Forgive the Unforgivable
By: Candice Frazier, Certified Master Transformation Health & Life Coach, Life Skills Competency Educator
How to forgive when it seems impossible.
If you are someone going through relationship struggles or family dysfunction, my heart is with yours.
I intimately know the confusion, hurt, rejection and all the wide-ranging emotions that come with relationship and family discord.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the round and round on the hamster wheel in our mind of the what if’s, why’s & how’s of the pain and confusion of it. The brain loves a good mystery and will spin out for days on solutions that will not only keep you safe and comfortable, but also stagnated, deeply unfulfilled and ultimately resentful.
This can often lead to many addictions and unwanted unhealthy habits that only serve to take you further away from the desired state of balance, bliss and wellness.
The quickest way to healing and moving away from the negative, draining, low vibration energy and into balanced bliss is achieved through forgiveness and self-love.
First use the ho’oponopono mediation daily and it will ease quickly ease your pain and bring peace and acceptance. CLICK HERE to see a YouTube video of the practice.
Remember … this is an emotional, intrapersonal & interpersonal communication literacy skill that so many need. “Forgive them for they not what they do.”
They can’t see past their own hurts, and the saying “hurt people hurt” is a truth that will help to get through the loss of loved ones who are still physically alive but not present in your life.
For self-reflection – we must look at the rejection we feel from others and ask ourselves:
“Where and how am I rejecting myself?”
“How can I be more present to my needs?”
“Where can I forgive myself?”
It’s a radical approach, but it is effective and will ease the pain of loss and rejection. And foster deeper sense of self awareness and increase self-love.
For once you possess awareness that rejection is protection, and an outward sign of how they are rejecting part of themselves, you begin to accept the experience.
Awareness allows you to see that it’s more about their fears and impaired beliefs that are driving the disconnect and disharmony.
Whole, complete & emotionally healthy people do not hurt others … they seek understanding and resolution-not control, isolation and judgement.
We can’t change others nor can we make others be open to ideas outside their own, even if they are mutually beneficial for humanity.
What we can change is our own understanding of the what, who and why and forge alliance with self through our self-care and self-love. The most important and desired side effects we get to experience from this is allowing the new awareness to guide us into balanced bliss with self. The only thing we truly have control over.
Yes! It is heartbreaking to miss experiences with them, the lost relationships and opportunities to be part of their lives.
I know…trust me.
That duality of emotions is what life is.
A constant cause/effect classroom to learn and practice the skills of communication literacy, intra-personal & inter-personal. But like any classroom, once you have access to it, and willingly move forward to learn new skills and accept the process of learning and making mistakes as you learn, you will soon see a shift and most important, realizing you are more empowered and confident.
Use these affirmations to help empower yourself.
- I get to choose what one I subscribe to.
- I get to choose what I allow to penetrate my fragile heart.
- I get to choose to keep my power when I don’t allow my struggles to hurt me, (because they are clearly hurt-so I then extend compassion).
- I get to choose that this struggle doesn’t define me or my worth.
- I get to choose forgiveness for those who hurt me.
- I chose these experiences and struggles for my spiritual and personal growth.
Will it be PAINFUL? YES! Absolutely!
But you will grow leaps and bounds rapidly and find peace.
Remember always, don’t take things personally and when you are offended say:
Please forgive me. I forgive you. I am sorry. I love you. Thank you.
And thank the universe for the lessons in that classroom and let them go.
Choose those words over the belief and negative energy of judgement, rejection and loss.
Choose the classroom of self-love and peace for humanity as you increase your emotional literacy and communication skills.
Peace ~ Love ~ Forgiveness
This is how to live in that same energy, frequency and vibration where all your desires are realized and manifested.
HOW I HELP
If you are struggling with your self-care and self-love, I am trained to help individuals like yourself transform their mindset and limiting beliefs so that they can find forgiveness, be their best friend, have fun and be on their path to self-care success. With the magic of transformational coaching, I can help you heal from thought patterns and beliefs that are keeping you stuck, so you can easily shift your habits and behaviors at a deeper level.
As your coach, we will get to the root cause of your struggles and uncover the self-sabotage programming in the brain. Awareness allows room for change! Take advantage of this incredible opportunity NOW! I will teach you how to shift your thinking in a way that works for you, not against you.
Let’s connect and learn more about how to transform your wish into your reality.
Let’s schedule our first 100% no strings attached coaching session. In this session, discover how working together can create successful self-care for you which allows an increase of self-love, allowing you to feel more healthy, alive and free than ever.
Contact me and MENTION: “FORGIVE”.
In my practice, I teach how the simple basics of self-love through sensual self-care for your soul is the ultimate form of self-love. Self-love opens the door to living an empowered and full life, be fully accepting of self, full of abundant joy, love and prosperity and create happiness instead of chasing it.
If it is time to take action, just one small step is all it takes to start the shift, reach out to me. To begin your transformation, message me at 916-542-9853, or firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule your complimentary coaching session (90 minutes ABSOLUTELY FREE!)
I look forward to having a fun, friendly and fantastic conversation with you!
Remember to LOVE SELF FIRST. Be the peace, patience & compassion that the world needs more of.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Candice is a Certified Master Transformation Health & Life Coach, Self-Love Expert, former Certified Medical Assistant and an Air Force Veteran. She an Author, “Sensuality of Self Care” (coming Fall 2019). Founder of Wellness With Candice/Dragonfly Devas and Elite Care Coaching Consultants. She is also the Creator / Host of The Self Care Success Show Podcast coming July 2019.
Implementing a holistic/alternative health approach, she overcame the adversity of childhood abuse & trauma, and is a 2x suicide survivor. She has overcome own health struggles of multiple autoimmune illnesses and debilitating fibromyalgia, and narcissistic abuse.
Her A-HA moment came when she realized that all the disease and illness in her body, was it communicating to her that she was not in alignment with her truth and was ignoring her intuition. After tuning into her intuition and allowing it to guide her in her daily actions, her new reality is now health, peace, happiness and connection to self.
Her goal is to teach humanity how to be complete mind, body and spirit through reconnecting to love of self through sensuality of their self-care to create confidence, intimacy and prosperity.
As a Life Skills Competency Educator and Global Presence Life Skills Ambassador for Parenting 2.0, her passion is to share the knowledge that not only are the skills needed to for self-care success easily learned, true wellness and healing is possible.
Her healing was not found in a pill or in doctor’s office. Her healing was right inside her all along, and with the help of her own Internal Guru, and successful self-care, abundant self-love, and emotional literacy she can now enjoy a fuller life.
She will empower you to honor your need for sensuality and guide you in way that excites you to show up for your daily self-care date with yourself. Her philosophy is that self-love is the path to freedom and happiness that allows you to live an empowered and full life and be the best version of you possible for self and others.