Embrace Your Crazy

By: John Mestyanek, Motivational Teacher & Metaphysical Enthusiast

“Crazy is the real “normal” because it is what we all share.” 

My last article discussed how to create stillness within your own mind and through this stillness experience your true source of power.  Another facet of personal power that has been drawn into my experience and relationships recently has to do with self-acceptance.  Many of us have either been told or have an innate understanding that we each are a unique individual with a special gift to bring to the world this lifetime, and yet we often strive to fit in or be perceived as normal.  Through my walk of life “normal” is not something many people experience in their lives.  Those that I hear say “I just want a normal life.” or “I just want to feel normal.” hold this concept that there is this general sense of peace and stability that others have that they don’t.

I am personally glad to say that I have yet to really get to know a truly “normal” person.  In fact, those that I have met who seem to have it all together from an outer perspective, end up revealing some ugly skeletons in the closet such as; adultery, addictions, or personality disorders.  The most emotionally and financially stable people I know have overcome some the greatest personal struggles from broken homes as a child, abuse, their own addictions, or loss of loved ones.  The fact of the matter is that life is a subjective journey through an objectively shared dimension and nobody truly knows your experience better than you.

A friend asked me the other day if I was jaded, and without much hesitation I responded, “Of course I am.”  I don’t know how anyone can make it to middle age in this experience without having experienced pain, loss, boiling anger, and even hatred towards those who may have been the stimulus for such emotion.  It is this jadedness that adds to our uniqueness.  Our struggles in life and how they influence us is what adds our individual shade of light that we bring to the world.  It is because of your pain, anger, and loss that you will be able to stronger, more self-sufficient, and compassionate to those in your sphere of influence.

We all have crazy within us.  Crazy is the real “normal” because it is what we all share.  Now I don’t go off sharing the depth of my crazy with everyone I meet.  Maybe I’m a little too conservative in my approach to life and interactions with my fellow humans, but I have come to the point of embracing my crazy which has led to a great sense of peace within myself.  Each individual has things they think or do that keeps them from feeling “normal” whether it’s talking with spirits, seeking psychic insight, believing in the power of crystals, or just talking with themselves.  The list goes on and on, but none of these should be an excuse to separate ourselves from connecting with others.

Connection is how we heal and we need to embrace those “crazy” parts of selves and seek connection with like minded “crazies”. 

Some of my most fulfilling relationships in my life have been with those that I have been able to be my whole self with.  Meaning I’ve allowed myself to share my “crazy” with them and whether they held the same beliefs, behaviors, or emotions they accepted me for I am.  They were also willing to be open with me about their own “crazy” which most often led to greater self-acceptance and discovery.  We are each unique in our own ways and yet there are still those that shine with similar shades of brilliance as your own.  There is no escaping our lessons we are here to learn, so least painful path through life is to embrace our whole self; “crazy” and all.  Make a little time for self-love and those gaping chasms of pain can close to just be a jaded aspect that reflects the lesson you have learned.

Bio: John Mestyanek has been studying and practicing metaphysical disciplines for 2 decades.  He works as a teacher for Dallas ISD striving to help low socio-economic students to rise above their environments. The light of his life is his son who is a constant motivation to keep growing as an individual and role model.