How to Better Self-Love – Part 2 With Rev Lee Wolak
Today, we will dive and explore a different area of life to help you
discover a new perspective on how you can learn to better self-love.Go ahead and close your eyes for 5-10 seconds and think about the best trip you’ve ever taken.
My guess is that you did new things, discovered new favorites andenjoyed new adventures that helped you get a new view of who you are.
And just as memorable and adventure-filled that trip was, love and relationships can have the same impact on your awareness and expansion if you allow it to happen.
Relationship Insight #3 – Love Is an Adventure Filled With Excitement and an Expectation of Expansion
Sure, bliss is nice, but you can’t achieve greater awareness without expansion and exploration. Love isn’t just about living in this constant state of bliss. You don’t want to be that couple in a relationship who’s just sitting back and have every day be the same thing. Day in and day out, it’d bet the same routine.
Love is an adventure where you’re constantly exploring new ideas and new ways of being. It’s about supporting your partner and experiencing new and exciting things. Love is constantly changing. When it’s about change, you’ll realize it’s also about accepting. Accepting your partner for who he/she is and accepting yourself for who you are. It comes back to the idea of self-love.
Being in a state of love never has to do with the other person. It’s about you being aligned with your highest values, remembering what you’re about and fully living in the experience. If you’re fully engaged, you’re more aware and more present in the relationship. If you decide relationships will be easy, then they will be. There will be contrast and there will be work to do, but you have the power to make the adventure enjoyable and exciting.
When I was growing up, my mom and dad often times worked multiple jobs to make sure our family had the things we needed. But that also meant they weren’t there for the little things, like sports and other
extracurricular activities. Sure, they weren’t around as much as I would’ve liked, but I knew they loved me. They also gave me insight into my value of being a more-present father when I had my family.
As my sons grew up and my relationship with them changed and evolved, I realized that what my parents did wasn’t good or bad. I can’t categorize it because I realized that at that time, in those moments, they were doing the best that they could do. That’s what matters. And that’s all that should matter for you in your relationships.
Relationship Insight #4 – Even If You’ve Done Something You Aren’t Proud Of, It Was Probably The Best You Could Do At That Time.
As you grow in your awareness, you’ll realize there are things you
could’ve done differently, maybe even what you would consider “better.”I admit that if I was in the place of awareness and self-love I’m in now when I had my sons, I would’ve been a better father. But at that time, I knew that I was doing what I needed to be the best father possible.
Mistakes and missteps are just the steps along your journey to self-awareness and self-love. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT beat yourself up over mistakes you make in any relationship. I’ve written before about
these portrayals of “perfect relationships” we see in movies and TV shows. It’s all about perspective. When you eliminate good and bad from the equation, take a step back and look at your journey through this
life, you’ll see for yourself that there is growth in everything you do.
When you stop growing and stop living through the values that define your life, the quality of your relationships will inevitably suffer. But if you can come from a place of awareness and self-love, you can bring that energy to any relationship and see if blossom and thrive as you continue your life’s journey.
Rev Lee Wolak
Agape Center for Spiritual Living
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