With Rev Lee Wolak

Self-love is a topic that’s near and dear to my heart. It has been a tremendous part of my life and it is essential when I’m talking about relationships.

Relationship is a word that means so much to so many people. There are countless books, magazines and movies to prove that. But what does it mean to you? What is your idea of the perfect relationship? Is there even such a thing? And why is there so much pain in so many relationships?

Perfection and pain are all about perspective. In most of the relationships we have, we are unconsciously seeking fulfillment from outside of ourselves. But that’s not what relationships and love are all about.

What Is Love?

Love isn’t something you do or something you make. It is about acceptance and seeing the divine in ourselves and our partner. It is a way of being and living life. Self –love is to fully accept yourself in this and every moment while evolving your self to your greater self-chosen potential. The truth I know about relationships is that the times we get hurt are the times we give away our power.

Relationship Insight #1 – Master Self-Love

Before you can love someone else, you must first love yourself. And self-love has to do with knowing who you are. It’s about knowing that you are more than just your physical presence. That’s only one aspect of us. We have a body, mind and a soul that is the expression of the infinite. That soul is perfect. It is whole. It is complete. There is nothing missing.

When you realize that nothing is missing from who you are, you’ll realize how powerful you are. And when you start living in that power, and being true to your soul, you will attract the friends and life partner that will support and grow you as you create and live a purpose-filled life.

I have come to understand that a key part of building awareness and more self-love is to develop a persistent and consistent daily spiritual practice. Meditation, affirmations, and spiritual mind treatments (affirmative prayer) are part of every one of my days. In meditation, there are two thoughts that I repeat in my mind that really keep me centered:

“I have a body. I am not my body.”

“I have a mind. I am not my mind.”

These two simple statements, as I repeat these over and over, I become more focused and aware of the concept that my soul is the true expression of the infinite. The mind and body are just aspects of who we are. Your body and mind are the house. And your soul is that foundation the house is built upon. Every house needs updates, repairs, care, cleaning and more. But in order for that house to stand strong, the foundation needs to be strong too. Our soul is the foundation, the connection to oneness. It is perfect and there is nothing missing from it. Meditation is key to knowing our foundation.

Relationship Insight #2 – Accept Yourself and Know You Are Enough

When we look at ourselves from our soul’s point of view, there is nothing missing, and we should be able to accept ourselves as we are in this moment.

It is in accepting ourselves and knowing that we are already enough that brings us into alignment with what we truly aim to achieve in every relationship we establish: a supporting, loving partnership that strengthens us and our partner throughout our life experiences. It is not until we can fully and completely accept ourselves that we can fully and completely accept another. This is true unconditional love.

We are already everything that we need in this moment. This freedom from doubt and self-judgment allows us to grow in the awareness of what we are already. Will that growth always be pretty? Of course not. There will be challenges. There will be contrast because we cannot grow in our own awareness without contrast. But once we live in that presence of acceptance and self-love, we attract more from our relationships that allows us to become more aware of our magnificence and that of our partner.

Rev Lee Wolak, Spiritual Director

Agape Center for Spiritual Living

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