Who is Really Destroying Your Life?
By: Jason Chaussee, Certified-Master Transformational Coach & Spiritual Teacher
Does your life feel out of control?
Are there people in your life that keep derailing your plans?
When their name shows up on your caller ID, do you groan?
When they knock on your door, are you’re tempted not to answer?
When they’re with you, does it feel like they seem to suck the life out of you?
Do you feel like what you want and need, seems irrelevant?
Stop. Take a breath. Look around you. Are you surrounded by toxic people?
Toxic people will run you over so they can achieve their own agenda. They do not have your best interest at heart. They are usually people you think you can trust, but because of their personalities, you cannot trust them. These people can fall under the category of family, friends, or coworkers and because of their special relationship to us, we let them get away with behaviors we usually would not accept.
Why would you let someone yell at you?
Why would you let someone lie to you?
Why would you let someone cheat you?
Why would you let someone steal from you?
Why would you let someone put you down and insult you?
Why would you let someone treat you like you’re unimportant?
Are you choosing to allow other people to be toxic towards you because you feel like that’s what you deserve?
Are your own thoughts about yourself toxic?
Is your inner voice also speaking to you in toxic undertones, telling you that you are unworthy of respect and love?
Are you so accustomed to this type of toxic behavior internally that you are willing to accept it externally from others?
Are you actually self-sabotaging?
It’s time to change! The following are guides to help you change this unhealthy pattern.
Top 3 Tips to Get Rid of Toxic People
Tip 1: Be Your True Authentic Self, aka YOU!
Until we choose to be true to our authentic self and see the value in who we are as unique individuals, we can’t expect anyone else to treat us with respect and dignity. This is especially true if we are not treating ourselves with respect and dignity.
Tip 2: Set Clear Boundaries & Stick To Them!
Set boundaries and don’t accept toxic behavior internally. When your thoughts go down a path of self-destruction and self-sabotage, stop yourself. Say to yourself,“I am worthy. I can do this. I will succeed!”
Tip 3) Stop the Negative Internal Tape & Behaviors!
Once you stop the internal toxic behaviors, then you can start putting up boundaries in other areas of your life. You can make healthy choices to benefit you!
Be prepared, when you stop accepting the unacceptable, the toxic people will slowly start to slip from your life. This will be difficult and at times lonely. It will take a lot effort and strength, but the peace gained is worth it. With this new freedom, you can make new like-minded friends to surround yourself with healthy energy.
At first, when you put up clear boundaries, they will try to push back so that they can continue to get what they want from you like they have in the past. They will act like you are the one being mean because you refuse to be stepped on, pushed around, or bullied. But if you stand firm, they will eventually realize that you are serious that you are not going to accept toxic behaviors, and they will slowly slip away and look for new easier victims.
It’s all a choice. You have the choice to rid your life of toxic people.
In the end, the only toxic people in your life are the ones who you allow to stay.
So, who is destroying your life? Is it possible, that maybe, it’s you?
Get in Touch & What’s Next?
This is all about discovery – uncovering the uniqueness of you and providing a space to step back and out of the patterns that are causing you emotional distress.
I like to offer my clients a complimentary discovery session before joining my program. This provides the opportunity to ask questions and learn more about my programs and my coaching philosophy.
To schedule your discovery session please email me at email@example.com and mention “TOXIC#”.
Otherwise years will have gone by and you will have spent more time in the negative energy and have more of what you don’t desire and less of what you do desire.
About the Author:
Jason Chaussee is an accomplished Certified-Master Transformational Coach and successful Spiritual Teacher.
His teachings are based on extensive studies and his own life experiences. His special gift was received through a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), at the age of 2 ½ which resulted in a 25-day coma. Since awakening with seizures, Jason has experienced life differently.
Despite his physical limitation, he has been able to research and apply a full-body approach to his own healing. His spiritual teaching/energy work has transformed many lives, teaching individual to find different ways to heal their own mind, body and soul.
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